Putting our children first during divorce means putting aside our anger, hurt, betrayal and sadness, particularly when directed at our ex-spouses, and putting the emotional needs of our children ahead of our own. No matter what your ex-spouse did or how you feel about him/her that person will always be your children's parent. And that is okay. is your responsibility for making it okay for your children to love that parent when they are around you. you make sure that happens, here some advice for keeping your divorce rightfully separated: 1. Never speak negatively about your previous spouse. 2. Never argue with your ex when your child is around. 3. Never talk about legal financial problems in front of your child. 4. Never use your child to talk to your ex on your behalf. 5. Never try to punish your ex by keeping the child from them. 6. Never use your child to spy on your ex, pry information on your ex, or who may or may not be with. 7. Never tell your child to deci