When you’re in the throes of divorce, it’s easy to think of all the ways your ex has wronged you. It’s easy to blame him or her for the downfall of your marriage, as well as your current state of misery. But blaming your ex for messing up your life, as well as your children’s lives, won’t change the past — or the present. The only thing blame will do is make you exponentially more miserable. Ready to let go and start moving on in 2018? Here’s how to take the first step. Why Blaming Your Ex Keeps You From Moving On With Your Life Let’s say you believe your ex is a narcissist/deadbeat/terrible co-parent/thoroughly loathsome human being. He or she creates daily chaos in your life: he sends you copious hostile emails, she bad-mouths you to the kids, he hides income to reduce child support. The stress is taking a toll. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, struggle to pay bills, have panic attacks when you see his texts pop up on your phone, and find it hard to concentrate at work