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Our advice on parenting your school aged children thru divorce



Divorce can be one of the most difficult times of your life and even worse for your school- aged child caught in the middle.
It is worse for your school aged children than the younger children because they understand more, they are more aware of what’s happening. To help your children out, your best practice is to follow a parenting plan.

Preparing a parenting plan
You and your ex-spouse must set parenting principles and stick to them.

 Most important you don’t want your children to get affected by any disagreements so you will need to come to an agreement of what rules and principles you are going to set. Set your ground rules and boundaries on what you consider to be acceptable behavior in front of and around your children. Always be able to know that you can count on each other in case of an emergency. It is important to know that your child is equipped with all necessities at which house they are staying.

Create a custody/visitation scheduled
Divorce will bring a lot of changes in your life. Especially your child’s life will be the most affected. Transitioning back and forth through both parents will be one of them, and it can affect tremendously if a schedule is not set. Depending on the terms of your divorce, it is important that both parents come to an agreement on visitations and custody on your child.

Education takes a big part on your child’s life and is an important factor as well. That is why a schedule needs to be made weeks or months before the child starts school, just in case any disagreements that need to be solve. The schedule should be made considering your child’s best interest in education. When a schedule is also set it is important to highlight where meetings and exchanges will happen. Don’t forget holidays and summer vacations also take big role in all this.

Don’t let the divorce affect your child’s education

 Education is an important aspect in your child’s life which is why its in important that both parents are aware of what happen in your child’s school. Best thing is to assign the school to contact both parents in regards your child’s academics. The reason why is it will avoid any conflicts and arguments that one parent wasn’t informed of any changes in your child’s school life. Academics, medical records and social events are important things to know within your child’s education life.  Events happen all the time during the school year and it is also as important as academics in your child’s education life. Make plans ahead on what events which parent will attend or come to an agreement if both parents can be at the same event as well.

Be Cooperative
More than anything, it is important that you and your ex-spouse cooperate in the upbringing of your school-aged child. Being involved in your child’s education and extracurricular activities will ease the process through divorce and be more effective in the wellbeing of your child’s education. Do what’s best for you child.


Are you worried about the effects your divorce may have on your school-aged children? Then you need the guidance of an experienced attorney to help you through this difficult time. At Dianne Drew Butler & Associates Inc. in Stockton, California, our family law attorneys have helped families dealing with these complex legal matters for more than 30 years. Let us help you!

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